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Men Wanted: Part 2

By Pastor Philip Howle
web posted April 3, 2013
RELIGION – I have a wife that is a planner. She loves to make plans, she loves to have a schedule worked out, and she loves to see her plans all come to fruition. I am glad of this. I am a little scattered-brained and go in lots of directions at the same time and I am very glad for a wife who can run the logistical aspects of my home. Many of you men are probably in the same situation. And for the most part you should be glad of it. But just because my wife runs the social calendar of our life does not mean that she is left to set the spiritual vision of the home that God has called me to lead.
Men, God has called you to lead your home. Now you can disagree, but way back at creation God made Adam first and made Eve to be his helper. Helper here does not mean Jr. Varisty.  God Himself will describe Himself as our helper and this is a word used to describe the Holy Spirit’s activity in our life. So Eve is called to help Adam to be the man that God has called him to be, (yes you could even say “You complete me.”) With this, let me remind men of the words of wisdom from the great Bible commentator Matthew Henry. “The woman was made of a rib out of the side of Adam; not made out of his head to top him, nor out of his feet to be trampled on by him, but out of his side to be equal with him, under his arm to be protected, and near his heart to be loved by him.” But even with this crucial role given to women, Adam from onset had been given a vision for his family to follow.

God gave Adam a vision of not wearing clothes, working the land, and making babies. This is a good deal. But Adam failed to lead. At some point, Satan, originally an Angel, decides he is not content to worship God, but desires to be God and leads a rebellion of angles. They fall and are cast out. Satan comes to Eve in the form of a snake and starts to talk to Eve. Adam sees his wife talking to a snake. Oddly this set off no red flags (which, call me crazy but maybe means animals talked in the Garden of Eden, no I am not writing from the “Mile High” city of Boulder Colorado). Anyways, Adam fails to remind Eve of the vision of worshipping God alone and being fruitful and instead passively sits back and does nothing.  Eve eats of the fruit and passes some to Adam who east with no resistance.
Now who sinned here first? Eve, right? But if you keep reading you see that when God came to call them to account, it didn’t matter that Eve had sinned first. God said, “Adam, where are you?” (Gen. 3:9). He calls Adam to give an account for the actions of his wife and family. He was the leader. He was responsible! He was to set forth God’s vision for his family.

Men, wake up and see this!  That’s God’s word to the family today: Adam, husband, father, where are you? If a company fails who is blamed? The janitor, the mid-level manager, the secretary? No, the CEO. He was the leader, he was responsible. Men, be honest, if something is not working right at your home who is to blame?  Your wife, your kids, the economy, or you? The buck stops with you.

But some of you men will say “but my wife is crazy, she is the problem!” That may be the case, but you chose to marry her and the responsibility you accepted as her husband was to lead her to become more and more like Jesus (Eph 5:25-27) So here is the deal, let’s say that Jesus comes knocking on your door, He may have an issue with your wife, but the first thing He’s going to say when she opens the door is, “Is the man of the house home?”

You are responsible for setting the vision for your home. If you have no vision, then that will explain some of the mess you may be in, as Proverbs 29:18 KJV “Where there is no vision, the people perish.”

How do you form a vision and what should it be? Well, it should not be a vision that your family exists to make you happy! It ought not be for your family to produce the most athletically awesome kids in the world. It ought not to be to have more money than the neighbors. It ought not to be to have kids with the best grades. None of these are bad things, but these are just not ultimate things. Mark 8:36 speaks to this danger “For what does it profit a man to gain the whole world and forfeit his life?”

First, men, a vision is what you want your family to be and where you want your family to go. This will be both broad and narrow. The broad part of the vision we find from scripture (hint men “But as for me and my house, we will serve the LORD. Joshua 24:15.”) The narrow part is what makes your family unique. Maybe you are an athletically gifted family.  This is great! Part of your vision will be to see your children develop to the fullest of their athletic potential, but that it not be allowed to get in the way of them becoming worshippers of Jesus. This vision will help you decide the money you spend and the time you a lot to athletics and other secondary matters.

Notice the vision of what matters most to your family will guide how you handle the other areas of life. Men, you should be setting the budget of the home (spending and giving). Men you should keep an eye on the social calendar. Don’t let your family be run ragged, going all over the place all the time. Men, you should be the primary one seeing to it your family is active in church.

Men, a Christ centered vision for your home will benefit you much. Sit down and write out what matters most to you and your family. Be honest if you look at your life (time, money, and energy spent) you will get a since of what your priorities are. You may be surprised. Now, if this is not as you want write out what you want the priorities in your home to be. This will give you a vision of where you should be. Next week we will look at implementing steps to achieve your vision. 
Be the man God has called you to be!
Pastor Phillip

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